Focus on God and let go!

When God calls you to do certain things you first feel excited and you tremble at the same time because you realise that it's bigger than you.

Particularly when you get into a position where you have responsibilities and the privilege to lead people as a group no matter how big or small it is, you start focusing on your vision and goals.

Just today I learned maybe this is not the only way to go about it. How about if we focus on God and our behaviour and let go? 
Our behaviour is the only thing we can really take charge of. Think about it...

We are not in control of other peoples behaviour nor decisions and you also cannot control circumstances. We can through our behaviour and decisions influence people and circumstances in a positive and right way though.

It's great to write your vision down and meditate and pray over it but we need to focus on God which means to let go of everything and everyone and trust God and let God be God!

We play our part and we should do all that we can do. When we set our goals or write out our vision we have to lay that down at the feet of Jesus and then receive wisdom from Him on how to go about it.

What are the steps I need to do in order for me to cooperate with God to achieve what he has set before me in form of a vision or dream?

I noticed every time I go through a challenging time or situation I find myself to first cry out to God and friends but ultimately I am inspired and I start being creative!

This is a healthy way to channel negative feelings or experiences. Turn the negative into a positive!

1. Write down the vision
2. Pray and let go
3. Focus on God and your behaviour

Let's all encourage each other at all times. We need each others support. We are a family.


Always Trisha

Trust

A German saying: “Trust is good, Control is better.” 

I grew up with this saying and I must admit it must have been quite ingrained inside of my brain.

Many times in my life in different situations I found myself to rehearse this phrase in my head over and over again. “Trish you cannot trust people - don’t open up and don’t be vulnerable!” Now after years and years of walking the walk of faith - hand in hand with my Lord Jesus I have the privilege to say that I am no longer trapped in that lie! 

And let me tell you, there is hope darling for you as well. I know the Bible says that we are supposed to trust God and not man (human beings) but let me challenge you to learn how to trust God and people in a healthy way. In order for you to genuinely love someone else - you have to be able to trust them and open up and be authentic and vulnerable.

You have to be willing to be vulnerable and trust God in the process.

Once you decide to walk into vulnerability and start to connect with people on your path that God has hand picked for you to develop and grow - you will see how beautiful you will become.

I am not the person I used to be. Today after a long journey of healing and restoration from the inside out - I have seen myself transform like a cocoon that becomes a stunning butterfly. Today I can look into the mirror and I see myself through Gods eyes and mine and I see a beautiful and radiant woman.

A woman that was deeply hurt and broken but had an encounter with the living God. The creator of heaven and earth and the great physician that is willing and more than happy to go into the hidden stuff and heal your very core of who you have become due to life and circumstances.

We all seem too long for perfection and being perfect. Let me tell you where this is coming from. God says that we were created in his image right? Yep. This is why its incorporated in us the desire to be perfect because once we were and we are meant to be still but in this life we will never be darling. But we are on our way of perfection. Thats what the Bible speaks about when it says “sanctification”. You are a new creation in Christ in your spirit when you receive Jesus as Saviour but your soul is in an ongoing process and development. That is also the daily fight inside of us when we want to do the right thing but choose to do the wrong. Even Apostle Paul was sharing about this inner fight. But he also says in the same chapter that there is hope! In Christ our saviour.

There are many songs and movies and a huge movement of self love and acceptance at the moment across the globe and this is wonderful. But allow me to add to this that I don’t agree with all of it.

One song called “Issues” Julia Michaels:

"'Cause you don't judge me

'Cause if you did, baby, I would judge you too

No, you don't judge me

'Cause you see it from same point of view

'Cause I got issues

But you got 'em too

So give 'em all to me

And I'll give mine to you

Bask in the glory

Of all our problems

'Cause we got the kind of love

It takes to solve ‘em.“

Without Jesus there will be no healing.

Another song called “Broken” says: “I am broken and its beautiful…” no its not beautiful to be broken at all - you should love and accept yourself as you are but also be willing to heal and be a blessing to society.

I like this song but let me add here without Jesus it is impossible to truly heal and move on and grow.

Always Trisha 

Take your power back!

Not ONE DROP of my self-worth depends on your acceptance of me. Say it out loud. Smile. Repeat. - Quincy Jones.

I love this quote. Read it again - breathe in and out and read it again. Let it sink in. When I read this for the first time I thought that this is something I really want to implement in my thoughts more and more.

So often we depend on people's words, opinions and acceptance. We all want to be accepted and understood. But if we base our self worth, life and mood on this, we are not going to go far in life.

If we keep trying to please people all the time and make sure everyone likes us - we are going nowhere. We need to shake that off and understand, if one or two do not like nor accept or support us, there are still going to be a million others that are going to love us for who we are!

So forget about that small group of ignorant people and move on! We don't need to convince people to like us. If they are blind to our value it's their problem and loss.

When people ghost you or do not return your call, move on, nothing wrong with you Babe. There might be something wrong with them though. Don't call or text again and again - just move on! 

By keeping them at the front of your everyday thoughts you give your power away to them. Take your power back! If a person can change your mood into negative when they enter the room - take your power back!

Nothing and no one should have that power over you. 

Don't depend on peoples praises or critics either. People change their opinion daily at times. Today they can lift you to the heavens and tomorrow they drag you down to hell. So please do not depend on people like that.

Know who you are and run with it Babe!

I believe in you and I love you.

RUN BABE RUN! FLY HIGH AND TOUCH THE SKY!

Always,

Trisha 💜

YOU say!

They say I need to look and style a certain way.
Be slim and tall. Always look perfect - whatever that means anyway!
Be kind and always say the right thing at the right time.
Be patient and wise. Have a flawless appearance at all times.
Be independent and work hart to have success.
Its all about image and performance. Its all superficial and shallow.


BUT here is what YOU say:

You say I am wonderfully and fearfully made.
You say you delight in me.
You say I am chosen, accepted, loved, forgiven and approved.
You say I am the light of the world and the salt of the earth.
You give me meaning, value and a purpose for my life.
You say I am your child, I am a queen, I am precious, I am valued, my worth is not measurable because you gave your life for me and I am part of your family forever. This is my destiny.

I am unique and full of life.

We are all in the same boat! :-)

Hello somebody! How are you doing out there?

No seriously how are you doing for real? I find it so funny how easily the words: "I am fine." pop out of our mouth.

How much of that response is true though? Just pause for a second and think. How are you? How is life? How are you physically? How are you mentally?

I know, I know I understand you don't want to open up to any random individual and that is right. You should be wise to and with whom you open up to and choose wisely.

This person needs to be someone who is worthy and has earned the right to have the privilege to have that depth of insight into your personal life.

It should be someone who is stable and able to stand on their own feet and proofed to you their loyalty. Someone who is for you and be compassionate and honest at the same time.
I need you to be willing to be vulnerable and withholding nothing. A real friend is someone who is for you - and will have compassion and understanding and not judge you but love you.

courage
/ˈkʌrɪdʒ/
noun
the ability to do something that frightens one; bravery.
"she called on all her courage to face the ordeal"
strength in the face of pain or grief.

"he fought his illness with great courage"

synonyms: bravery, braveness, courageousness, pluck, pluckiness, valour, fearlessness, intrepidity, intrepidness, nerve, daring, audacity, boldness; dauntlessness, doughtiness, stout-heartedness, hardihood, manfulness, heroism, gallantry; backbone, spine, spirit, spiritedness, mettle, determination, fortitude, resolve, resolution; informalguts, grit, spunk, gutsiness, gameness; informalbottle, ballsiness; informalmoxie, cojones, sand; vulgar slangballs

"it takes courage to speak out against the tide of opinion"

The root of the word courage is cor - the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart." Over time, this definition has changed, and today, we typically associate courage with heroic and brave deeds. Brené Brown

courage:
It takes courage, compassion and connection to live a life wholeheartedly based on the book I am reading currently called: "The gifts of Imperfection". I am loving it so much.

compassion
/kəmˈpaʃ(ə)n/
noun
sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others.
"the victims should be treated with compassion"
synonyms: pity, sympathy, feeling, fellow feeling, empathy, understanding, care, concern, solicitude, solicitousness, sensitivity, tender-heartedness, soft-heartedness, warm-heartedness, warmth, love, brotherly love, tenderness, gentleness, mercy, mercifulness, leniency, lenience, tolerance, consideration, kindness, humanity, humaneness, kind-heartedness, charity, benevolence
"she gazed with compassion at the two dejected figures"

compassion:
To have compassion means to be not judgemental and love and embrace that person fully with their weaknesses and strength. And after you have listened to be willing to be kind and then also share out of your experience and be vulnerable as well.

connection
/kəˈnɛkʃ(ə)n/
noun
a relationship in which a person or thing is linked or associated with something else.
"the connections between social attitudes and productivity"
synonyms: link, relationship, relation, relatedness, interrelation, interrelatedness, interconnection, interdependence, association, attachment, bond, tie, tie-in, correspondence, parallel, analogy; bearing, relevance
"he does not pursue the connection between commerce and art"

connection:
To me to really connect means to dig deep. To do life together and really be vulnerable
without playing it down because of shame and fear.

Be VULNERABLE!!!
Always Trisha

Are you confident or arrogant?

Pow! In your face right?

I know, I know darling, relax I am not here to attack or to accuse you of anything but to remind you that you are UNIque and that there is no one like you.

When we more and more get into that mind-set that we ARE enough as an Individual we relax and start shining our own beautiful light. 

This is valid for every one of us – men and women. You are called to be beautifully YOU.

You are not replaceable. The calling up on your life is tailored to you specifically and uniquely.

You have been empowered with skills and talent and creativity is meant to fulfill you and mainly to bless others. Yes, don’t be selfish, share your creativity!

But I think this is probably anyway natural to all of us to want to share what burns within us…we all feel the burning urge to give no matter what it is and we all want to connect and share. It's not good for men to be alone. “Men” as in humanity.

We all naturally long for connection and acknowledgement. It’s part of being human. We were created that way and there is no reason to hide behind the tree. No shame. Affirmation and encouragement is a basic and healthy need to have.

There should be no shame to even ask for it. Vulnerability is beautiful and not a weakness. We all should interact in an open and transparent way. Again there is no need to hide. 

You are fully loved and accepted the way you are! Be kind!

Always,

Trisha

Honesty and Transparency

When you ask people: “Are you always honest and transparent?” Usually the response is: “Of course at all times!”

Allow me to be bold at this point…You are not! 

We all aim to be ourselves and completely genuine but if we claim to have never ever told a lie or not at least once (and even that is stupid as we have lied at least a hundred times and more in a lifetime) - we already are not being honest to ourselves and others.

We all have put on these masks and slipped into roles and surrounded ourselves with these walls of protection believing this is who we are.

What is holding us back from being completely blank and transparent is a fear we carry inside.

It is a specific fear: It is called fear of rejection. We fear the non acceptance of who we really are. Believe me its so worth being honest and transparent. 

It might be that you won’t have a lot of friends or acquaintances in your circle but the ones who fully accept you will be your real friends and people you want around you at all times.

I understand that it’s not always easy but I believe it’s necessary. Obviously there is a moment and time for certain things to be said. Sometimes you have to be silent and say nothing and leave it for later. I think we have all access to divine wisdom to apply in those tricky situations where you just know when and how and what to say.

We have to be willing to be vulnerable and open. If you think you can protect yourself from getting hurt its again another lie. Of course you have to learn to be wise and not do a soul striptease with anybody that comes along your path. Be wise and choose who you should open up to and trust. Before you completely open up and let yourself go you should watch that specific person and see how they conduct their lives and how they treat themselves and others.

Live and enjoy yourself, others and life to the fullest by being yourself and with no fear nor shame at all.

Always, 

Trisha

Frustration through distraction

You know those moments or times when one text, call or person captures your attention and time and it robs you of your precious time? 

I think we all can relate to that. Like today I planned to have some me time and chill, I had my monthly treat - which is going to the beauty shop once a month and have a pedicure. Then I wanted to sit in a Cafè and write.

When I set down to start writing I noticed a message on my Mac of a contact I did block on my iPhone! How weird I thought…I blocked that person and it should not be able to come through to my Mac as it blocked on my iPhone. Already that annoyed me and I tried to fix it - I could not fix it or better I gave up and thought - I need to move on as it has cost me already to much time (later on it was fixed)!

Time people is so precious why do we keep wasting it? Particularly with things or people that are not worth it of it?

I find my self in this over and over again. I get distracted by things or people and waste time. Now what could be a solution here?

Set priorities! What matters to you really? Set up a list on paper or in your mind. It can be a difficult task especially if you don’t know yourself very well. I think I know myself very well in some ways but still there his more and even though I know myself I tend to compromise with things to then find myself unhappy. 

We need to get to know ourselves and be honest toward ourselves and others. We need to set priorities and accept who we are with the attitude that we can always grow and become a better version of our self.

I believe growth is always possible and important. We need to let go of things and people. The more you hold on to it the more it will distance itself from you.

You also don’t need to convince people to accept or love you. They either do or they don’t. You are worthy of love and you are enough.

Always,

Trisha

Empowerment

I believe that vulnerability is a beautiful thing.

I completely understand when people say I don’t want to be open and share myself to the point I make myself vulnerable and people can use it against me one day.

But being alive a few decades - I have come to understand that it is a lie to think we can auto protect us by building walls around us by not opening up and being genuine with our people.

The hurt and disappointment will come anyway in spite of your walls and miserable try to protect yourself. The truth is that the more we realise how healthy and courageous it is to actually be vulnerable - the more we will feel free to be and allow others to be them selves. 

First of all its good for you and your soul to share and process things that happen to you and at the same time it frees the other person to do the same and experience this freedom of being real. 

I am sitting in a very cute Café and I look up and see people around me all apart from one or two on their cell phone. No one is having a proper conversation and quality time with each other. Well, let me tell you my friend - this reflects todays society. Really sad to watch. 

Partially I have been affected by this myself by being the executer and the victim. I am trying to put the phone away as much as possible and when I meet up with people I never have my cell in my hands anyway. I believe in quality time with people - and I show attention and respect with that. Undivided attention and time is a precious gift. 

Honesty can at times put you off or really cut you deep. But I think it is necessary at all times but it has to be done in love with the best intention in mind for the person.

Be real - be who you really are without the fear of rejection. If you feel the fear do it anyway. “What if they wont love me after they know me?” Well, then darling they have never loved you genuinely. You don't need these kind of people in your life. Move on! 

There will be people in your life that will love you for who you are and stand by your side no matter what. I have been blessed to have a few of this people in my life and still have them. Thank God.

The people that will accept your beauty and your ugliness. Your weakness and your strength. You are called to be you - no one else but you. Unashamed you!

You are unique and you are beautiful with all your scars and bruises…don’t hide them - now I am not encouraging you to tell your whole story to everyone unless this is your wish - then feel free. Life will teach you wisdom to open up to the people that are worthy of you and your depth.

Let me leave you with the…

Be bold enough to be completely vulnerable and brutally honest - it will disarm your enemies and empower you!

Always,

TRISHA

Our sight

There is beauty in life. There is beauty in me. There is beauty in you. There is beauty in the four seasons. There is beauty in the spring, summer, autumn and winter.

If you only open the eyes of your heart you will be able to see beauty in everything. I said it, in everything. Even in the thing we normally would think - it is everything but beautiful.

Trust me, there is…beauty in everything or at least it used to be once at some point. 

When God created the earth and all that lives in it…he created it to perfection - because he is perfect. Everything God has ever created - is beautiful and perfect.

Our eyes or vision have been distorted after humanity fell into sin. Now we need God’s Grace to adjust our sight and way of seeing things the way he sees them.

When he looks at you and me what do you think he sees?

Once you have accepted Christ as your personal saviour…God the father sees you as he sees his son Jesus Christ. He sees the righteousness of God in Christ - he sees a sanctified - beloved - precious - valuable and unique creation. He sees a daughter or a son.

He does not see your past nor your sin anymore. You have been completely forgiven as though as you had never sinned ever in your life. He did remove once and for all - all transgressions. 

All guilt - all shame - all condemnation.

He delights in me and you - he looks at us and he rejoices and is so proud of you and me. He could not love us more than he already does. His love is unconditional and unlimited…everlasting. It does not depend on anything or anyone.

Once you get a revelation of his love you start seeing yourself and everything else in his undistorted way. You see the truth. The beauty. The divine in us and everything. 

God loves you so much that he wants to improve your life and all that is in you. If you have certain things you fight with or you consider to be a weakness or limit or obstacle in your life or character:

God waits for you with his arm wide open and for you to allow him to heal you and set you free.

The one thing that can heal and free you is: his LOVE. It has all healing power.

I have seen it in my own life. I have come a long way. I have seen him transform me into the real me. The beautiful soul and woman he meant for me to be. Life can be cruel and tough at times and it can hurt you very much. But there is hope! And his name is JESUS.

Love, Hope, Healing and Power has a name my friend: Jesus. Never give up faith nor hope. He is faithful and he will keep his word and promise!

He is good all the times and he is so so so much bigger and better than you could ever even imagine my dear.

Let me leave you with this:

HE loves you unconditionally and without any hesitation or resistance! It has no limit at all - at no time! Relax and bath in this truth!

Always,

Trisha