Are you confident or arrogant?

Pow! In your face right?

I know, I know darling, relax I am not here to attack or to accuse you of anything but to remind you that you are UNIque and that there is no one like you.

When we more and more get into that mind-set that we ARE enough as an Individual we relax and start shining our own beautiful light. 

This is valid for every one of us – men and women. You are called to be beautifully YOU.

You are not replaceable. The calling up on your life is tailored to you specifically and uniquely.

You have been empowered with skills and talent and creativity is meant to fulfill you and mainly to bless others. Yes, don’t be selfish, share your creativity!

But I think this is probably anyway natural to all of us to want to share what burns within us…we all feel the burning urge to give no matter what it is and we all want to connect and share. It's not good for men to be alone. “Men” as in humanity.

We all naturally long for connection and acknowledgement. It’s part of being human. We were created that way and there is no reason to hide behind the tree. No shame. Affirmation and encouragement is a basic and healthy need to have.

There should be no shame to even ask for it. Vulnerability is beautiful and not a weakness. We all should interact in an open and transparent way. Again there is no need to hide. 

You are fully loved and accepted the way you are! Be kind!

Always,

Trisha

Honesty and Transparency

When you ask people: “Are you always honest and transparent?” Usually the response is: “Of course at all times!”

Allow me to be bold at this point…You are not! 

We all aim to be ourselves and completely genuine but if we claim to have never ever told a lie or not at least once (and even that is stupid as we have lied at least a hundred times and more in a lifetime) - we already are not being honest to ourselves and others.

We all have put on these masks and slipped into roles and surrounded ourselves with these walls of protection believing this is who we are.

What is holding us back from being completely blank and transparent is a fear we carry inside.

It is a specific fear: It is called fear of rejection. We fear the non acceptance of who we really are. Believe me its so worth being honest and transparent. 

It might be that you won’t have a lot of friends or acquaintances in your circle but the ones who fully accept you will be your real friends and people you want around you at all times.

I understand that it’s not always easy but I believe it’s necessary. Obviously there is a moment and time for certain things to be said. Sometimes you have to be silent and say nothing and leave it for later. I think we have all access to divine wisdom to apply in those tricky situations where you just know when and how and what to say.

We have to be willing to be vulnerable and open. If you think you can protect yourself from getting hurt its again another lie. Of course you have to learn to be wise and not do a soul striptease with anybody that comes along your path. Be wise and choose who you should open up to and trust. Before you completely open up and let yourself go you should watch that specific person and see how they conduct their lives and how they treat themselves and others.

Live and enjoy yourself, others and life to the fullest by being yourself and with no fear nor shame at all.

Always, 

Trisha

Frustration through distraction

You know those moments or times when one text, call or person captures your attention and time and it robs you of your precious time? 

I think we all can relate to that. Like today I planned to have some me time and chill, I had my monthly treat - which is going to the beauty shop once a month and have a pedicure. Then I wanted to sit in a Cafè and write.

When I set down to start writing I noticed a message on my Mac of a contact I did block on my iPhone! How weird I thought…I blocked that person and it should not be able to come through to my Mac as it blocked on my iPhone. Already that annoyed me and I tried to fix it - I could not fix it or better I gave up and thought - I need to move on as it has cost me already to much time (later on it was fixed)!

Time people is so precious why do we keep wasting it? Particularly with things or people that are not worth it of it?

I find my self in this over and over again. I get distracted by things or people and waste time. Now what could be a solution here?

Set priorities! What matters to you really? Set up a list on paper or in your mind. It can be a difficult task especially if you don’t know yourself very well. I think I know myself very well in some ways but still there his more and even though I know myself I tend to compromise with things to then find myself unhappy. 

We need to get to know ourselves and be honest toward ourselves and others. We need to set priorities and accept who we are with the attitude that we can always grow and become a better version of our self.

I believe growth is always possible and important. We need to let go of things and people. The more you hold on to it the more it will distance itself from you.

You also don’t need to convince people to accept or love you. They either do or they don’t. You are worthy of love and you are enough.

Always,

Trisha

Empowerment

I believe that vulnerability is a beautiful thing.

I completely understand when people say I don’t want to be open and share myself to the point I make myself vulnerable and people can use it against me one day.

But being alive a few decades - I have come to understand that it is a lie to think we can auto protect us by building walls around us by not opening up and being genuine with our people.

The hurt and disappointment will come anyway in spite of your walls and miserable try to protect yourself. The truth is that the more we realise how healthy and courageous it is to actually be vulnerable - the more we will feel free to be and allow others to be them selves. 

First of all its good for you and your soul to share and process things that happen to you and at the same time it frees the other person to do the same and experience this freedom of being real. 

I am sitting in a very cute Café and I look up and see people around me all apart from one or two on their cell phone. No one is having a proper conversation and quality time with each other. Well, let me tell you my friend - this reflects todays society. Really sad to watch. 

Partially I have been affected by this myself by being the executer and the victim. I am trying to put the phone away as much as possible and when I meet up with people I never have my cell in my hands anyway. I believe in quality time with people - and I show attention and respect with that. Undivided attention and time is a precious gift. 

Honesty can at times put you off or really cut you deep. But I think it is necessary at all times but it has to be done in love with the best intention in mind for the person.

Be real - be who you really are without the fear of rejection. If you feel the fear do it anyway. “What if they wont love me after they know me?” Well, then darling they have never loved you genuinely. You don't need these kind of people in your life. Move on! 

There will be people in your life that will love you for who you are and stand by your side no matter what. I have been blessed to have a few of this people in my life and still have them. Thank God.

The people that will accept your beauty and your ugliness. Your weakness and your strength. You are called to be you - no one else but you. Unashamed you!

You are unique and you are beautiful with all your scars and bruises…don’t hide them - now I am not encouraging you to tell your whole story to everyone unless this is your wish - then feel free. Life will teach you wisdom to open up to the people that are worthy of you and your depth.

Let me leave you with the…

Be bold enough to be completely vulnerable and brutally honest - it will disarm your enemies and empower you!

Always,

TRISHA

Our sight

There is beauty in life. There is beauty in me. There is beauty in you. There is beauty in the four seasons. There is beauty in the spring, summer, autumn and winter.

If you only open the eyes of your heart you will be able to see beauty in everything. I said it, in everything. Even in the thing we normally would think - it is everything but beautiful.

Trust me, there is…beauty in everything or at least it used to be once at some point. 

When God created the earth and all that lives in it…he created it to perfection - because he is perfect. Everything God has ever created - is beautiful and perfect.

Our eyes or vision have been distorted after humanity fell into sin. Now we need God’s Grace to adjust our sight and way of seeing things the way he sees them.

When he looks at you and me what do you think he sees?

Once you have accepted Christ as your personal saviour…God the father sees you as he sees his son Jesus Christ. He sees the righteousness of God in Christ - he sees a sanctified - beloved - precious - valuable and unique creation. He sees a daughter or a son.

He does not see your past nor your sin anymore. You have been completely forgiven as though as you had never sinned ever in your life. He did remove once and for all - all transgressions. 

All guilt - all shame - all condemnation.

He delights in me and you - he looks at us and he rejoices and is so proud of you and me. He could not love us more than he already does. His love is unconditional and unlimited…everlasting. It does not depend on anything or anyone.

Once you get a revelation of his love you start seeing yourself and everything else in his undistorted way. You see the truth. The beauty. The divine in us and everything. 

God loves you so much that he wants to improve your life and all that is in you. If you have certain things you fight with or you consider to be a weakness or limit or obstacle in your life or character:

God waits for you with his arm wide open and for you to allow him to heal you and set you free.

The one thing that can heal and free you is: his LOVE. It has all healing power.

I have seen it in my own life. I have come a long way. I have seen him transform me into the real me. The beautiful soul and woman he meant for me to be. Life can be cruel and tough at times and it can hurt you very much. But there is hope! And his name is JESUS.

Love, Hope, Healing and Power has a name my friend: Jesus. Never give up faith nor hope. He is faithful and he will keep his word and promise!

He is good all the times and he is so so so much bigger and better than you could ever even imagine my dear.

Let me leave you with this:

HE loves you unconditionally and without any hesitation or resistance! It has no limit at all - at no time! Relax and bath in this truth!

Always,

Trisha

Poetry Slam

Emotional Intelligence

“Emotional intelligence has four parts: self-awareness, managing our emotions, empathy, and social skill. There are many tests of emotional intelligence, and most seem to show that women tend to have an edge over men when it comes to these basic skills for a happy and successful life.That edge may matter more than ever in the workplace, as more companies are starting to recognise the advantages of high EI when it comes to positions like sales, teams, and leadership.” This is a very interesting topic and unfortunately very underestimated still. We need to embrace all the intelligence of each person and EI is part of it! Emotional intelligence has 4 pillars 1. self-awareness conscious knowledge of one's own character and feelings. "the process can be painful but it leads to greater self-awareness" You should take the time to meditate on you inner life. You should take your time to get to know yourself more and more in order for your relationships to work much better. You will also have to learn how to communicate without offending and hurting people. 2. managing our emotions You need to learn how to manage your emotional life as well. Which means to not respond to all and everything instantly by your natural response - but to take a step back – breath in and out and maybe just take your time before you respond or even react at all! 3. empathy the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. How much time do you invest into this? Usually we are so focused on our own microcosms and we don’t find any time for that. How much time do you invest into really listening and paying attention to someone else? 4. social skill 1) The ability to stay calm in social situations 2) Listening skills: The art of connection 3) Empathy with and interest in others' situations 4) Knowing how to build rapport 5) Knowing how, when and how much to talk about yourself - 'self disclosure' 6) Look into their eyes and smile So much about Emotional intelligence folks! Trisha

WHO ARE YOU?

This is probably the most asked question throughout the existence of humanity and it has been on the mind of any nationality, gender and age. Who are YOU? When everything is stripped away - what remains of you? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Who are you and what is your message…what is your gift, your talent? What were you born with that we need you to share with us? What are you passionate about and naturally excellent at without any effort? That is your natural talent! You are one of a kind - there is no one like you – no one can do the things you do the way you do it. We need your talent to complement the rest of us…as a society we should function as one whole body. Can you imagine your body without an arm or leg? Horrible thought right? We need your input – your thoughts – your talent and your inspiration! We need you to be you and nobody else. You are meant to stand out and not fit it in. You are meant to be you. When you were created uniquely and beautifully – you were created and formed for a specific purpose and reason. It’s not about what and who people say you are! Don’t believe the chatter and negative battle in your mind and gossip about you! I need you to go on a self discovery journey! Find out who you are and what you are excellent at and come back to us and bless us with your presence! The way your mind works, your voice, your moves everything about you is a manifestation of your uniqueness! Don’t ever copy nor imitate anyone! Everyday take your time to get to know yourself and learn how you function and contribute to society. Start with small things once you know who you are and what you can do for us… It’s about who you are and how you can serve in giving back to humanity… Never doubt your purpose and significance…as long as you are breathing – you are not done! There is a job out there for you to do – that only you can do. You are not replaceable. It's not just about you but US! We are in this boat together! Let's not sink but sail !!! I am going to leave you with this question: WHO ARE YOU?
Always Trisha

How to deal with the challenges life offers you

Don’t freak out! Don’t panic! Keep calm and carry on! When life throws stones along your path - don’t take it personal and please carry on being your glorious self! Never doubt your self-worth and value - no matter what people say or do or even treat you - please never doubt your immense worth! You are so precious and we need all of you to complement us and society. We need you to be your whole self. We need your strengths and your weaknesses – yes, I said it weaknesses! I believe we are meant to be a supportive and complementary society - where my weakness gets smoothed out through your strength and vice versa. Instead of pointing out the weaknesses of people - how about focusing on their strength and pull that out more?Am I saying we need to ignore the weak points? No way - but maybe we can affirm more and encourage rather than criticise? Maybe we can help out without even mentioning their weak spots?

My experience is that the more you point out what you do not appreciate - the more people tend to withdraw and even become worse than they already are…on the other side if you do appreciate and affirm them for what they have done well - they start to even improve in their less strong parts. I am conscious about the fact that I am asking a lot out of you/us…but I trust we can move forward together! Let's carry on being glorious and unique! Thank you for your time and open mind!
Always smiling Trisha

REJECTION

What does this word cause in you??? A long time ago I heard a wise woman say online in a video: “Rejection Is A Divine Announcement That - The person no longer has the capacity for your Greatness!!!” Ain't Nothin wrong with you Babe!!! I want you to face the ugliness of rejection with that attitude. Never take it on a personal level. You are beautiful, gorgeous and strong just the way you are! You were born to stand out why try to fit in?! We need you just the way you were created – your uniqueness is expressed the best when you do not imitate nor copy but be YOU!!! You are equipped and empowered to do all you are called to do. Take time to get to know who you really are and reflect on how you can give back to society. Be a participator not just a spectator. Get involved and spill out your love and kindness to those around you as much as you can. I encourage you to particularly bless those who are difficult! What’s the win if you bless those you love anyway??? When life throws stones at you – and they come in all shapes and forms - face them with courage and peace. Be confident in who you are – relax and carry on! Signed, Blessed Trisha